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New Year, New You??

Posted by on Jan 8, 2014 in Uncategorized | 2 comments

Well, it’s the time of year for resolutions and change and blah, blah, blah!! While I understand the obsession with a new year, the fact remains, we are generally not ready to change on January 1st.  I gave up New Year’s resolutions about 15 years ago, yet I am still tempted every year to “change” when the new year comes. We can change in a day, when it’s the right time; however, the seeds of change need to be planted and cultivated and are not necessarily ready to go on January 1st.  Following the seasons, winter is a time for reflection and probably a good time to set your intentions for the future, with spring being when you start to see evidence of your efforts.

So please, be gentle with yourself this time of year. We are bombarded with advertisements of how we should be losing weight and giving up all our bad habits.  How about instead we sit in awareness of where we are and look towards where we want to be. It isn’t until we truly accept where we are that we can make true and lasting change. We are perfect where we are at. That does not mean we cannot better ourselves, it just means that wherever we are in our journey is where we are supposed to be. Be grateful for even difficult times teach us and prepare us. Honor this time for reflection without being caught up in what “needs” to change to make you happy. If you cannot be happy in the here and now, you are not ready for change and that is okay.

My wish for all of you this season is acceptance and love of where you are on your journey and who you are as a person.

Speaking of change…. I would like to change my blog format during this year more to a question and answer format. Kind of “Dear Dawny” as one of my best friends calls me whenever she has an issue. So, if you have any issues (emotional, physical, spiritua)l, please feel free to write me at dawnofwellness@gmail.com (please put “Dear Dawn” in the subject line) or send me a message on my FaceBook page – Dawn of Wellness.

Here’s to a wonderful 2014!

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Listening to the Tribe

Posted by on Oct 16, 2013 in Uncategorized | 0 comments

I have spent some time away from my business and my writing trying to find my voice. Funny though, because working with clients and writing is where my voice is. I think many times we let everyone else’s voices come in and tell us what they think we should be doing. Even when they don’t directly say it, we feel it. Oftentimes because of this we start to believe it and lose focus on what our individual purpose is. One size does not fit all. We are all unique and should be able to express ourselves and not worry what other people think. Their judgments are none of your business and reflect on their lives, not yours.

I wrote the following while walking today and thinking about how we tend to conform to the group (or tribe) we are with. I hope it speaks to you, but honestly, it only needs to speak to me 😉

The Tribe

 

I used to talk with the trees

And they gave me guidance

But I listened to the tribe instead

 

I used to feel the earth

And the earth sent me messages

But I listened to the tribe instead

 

I used to hear the birds

And they sang wisdom to me

But I listened to the tribe instead

 

I used to see the flowers

And they showed me beauty

But I listened to the tribe instead

 

I used to talk to the whispering leaves

I used to feel the earth’s vibrations

I used to hear the bird’s song

I used to see the beauty

Until I listened to the tribe

-Dawn Moro

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Negative Self Talk

Posted by on Apr 26, 2013 in Negative Self Talk, Uncategorized | 9 comments

“Evict the critical tenant sitting inside your head.”

–Alan Gettis (The Happiness Solution)

 

“To be clear…there is a big difference between pursuing health and verbally bashing yourself.  Fat talk serves no purpose even when we have weight to lose.  Action and positive affirmation are critical when it comes to lasting life improvements.”

–Jillian Michaels

 

 

Wow!  You look fat today!  How much weight have you gained?  Lord, look at that cellulite!  Are you waving or is that just your upper arms?  Boy, you really sound stupid today!

Would you be friends with someone who greeted you like that?  I certainly hope not, yet a vast majority of us greet ourselves like that on a daily basis.  What do you think when you wander into the bathroom and look in the mirror first thing in the morning?  It’s no wonder we have such issues with weight and self-esteem.

So, how do you change this pattern of self-depreciation?  Awareness!!  Becoming aware of your negative self talk will take you a long way in changing this destructive habit.  Once you become aware of your negative self talk, then you can begin the process of changing those negative thoughts.

One of the most powerful things you can do is to stand in front of that mirror in the morning (and in the evening) and say what you LOVE about yourself out loud.  Start where it is comfortable for you, such as “I love that I am wonderful and loyal friend.”  “I love that I am good at…”  As you become more comfortable you can begin to embrace your “flaws.”  You cannot “hate” your weight away and you cannot “shame” yourself into a healthier body or better way of thinking or acting.  You may have short-term results from this self-depreciating behavior, but if you don’t fix the underlying issues, long-term health and an ideal weight will not be maintained.

Love where you are at and the rest can follow.  Train yourself to speak lovingly to yourself and see the inner transformation start reflecting on the outside as well.  If you wouldn’t treat your friends the way you are treating yourself, it is time for a change!

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What’s Your Story?

Posted by on Apr 21, 2013 in Holding on to Past, Uncategorized | 0 comments

“Learn from your story, but don’t live in it.”

-Steve Maraboli

We, as a society, define ourselves by our jobs, diseases, stresses.
How often do you have conversations where you seem to just compare who
has it worse?  These stories create baggage that we carry around and
inhibit us living in the present moment and moving toward what we
want. They keep us in a holding pattern, circling the same issues
again and again.

I once worked with a guy who literally introduced himself “Hi, I’m
…, I’m on Atkins.” He had started many diets and “failed” and
defined himself as a dieter. Needless to say, he is still “dieting”
and without a change in story, will always be dieting. He will
literally diet himself to death.

I love the people who always say how busy they are. Aren’t they the
most frazzled people? They believe they don’t have time to do
everything that needs to be done, but the funny thing is that most of
these people find the time to do everything EXCEPT take care of
themselves. No wonder they feel so rushed, they are shortening their
lives! They won’t be able to do anything when their body says “enough”
and gives them a disease to get some rest and recovery. You cannot be
there for anyone if you don’t take care of yourself FIRST. Not your
kids, spouse, family, job. It’s all about priorities. It is amazing
how much more time you will have if you schedule yourself first. Time
to exercise, meditate, fix healthy meals. When your body is in
balance, your life tends to reflect that.

Whatever stories you are toting around, make sure they serve you in a
positive way. They should empower you, not weigh you down and give you
excuses. There is no past, there is no future, there is only now and
what you choose to do in this moment. “Living” in the past keeps you
from moving forward. It’s a great place to visit, to see how far
you’ve come, but when you hold onto those feeling of pain, sadness,
anger, resentment, you are not truly living. Let go of the stories
that hold you in the past and create new ones that reflect who you
want to be.

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Ditch the New Year’s Resolution!

Posted by on Apr 10, 2013 in Uncategorized | 0 comments

Every year we are bombarded with advertising and other people pressuring us into making resolutions for the upcoming year.  Things we have been putting off or changing things we don’t like or are under the impression we are not supposed to like.  I always hated going back to school in January and writing resolutions as a school assignment.  By adulthood, it was so ingrained you felt like you had to “resolve” to change something over the coming year and like most people, eating better and exercising were usually top of the list.  Then about 13 years ago or so, my husband and I made a resolution to never make resolutions again.  It is the only one I have ever kept and I have to admit, it was quite freeing!

So, in a couple of days, we will all be “pressured” into resolving to better ourselves in some way in the coming year.  I have to admit, in previous years I have felt a little tempted to fall back into the “norm” and resolve to be “different” than I am now.  Before you “vow” to be a better person and lose weight or quit smoking or exercise more, ask yourself, “what is wrong with who I am now?”  The answer is nothing!  You are exactly who you are supposed to be in this moment.  God does not make mistakes.

I am not saying that you do not need to work towards changing habits that you do not like, but deciding that on this one day, you are going to change, is a little bigger bite than most people can chew.  New Year’s day does not make you a different person than you were on New Year’s eve.  I love moving into a new year, and I agree that there is a certain “freshness” about it, like anything is possible (and it is!).

How about for this year, if you must, resolve to be a little kinder to yourself.  To take baby-steps toward being the person you know you already are.  That if you are trying to eat better and exercise more, it is okay if you “mess up,” because in the very next moment you have the opportunity to do better.  Begin your days with thanks for what you do have and for what you have already accomplished.  Remember to love yourself as you are and that you are exactly where you need to be to get where you are going.

Have a wonderful New Year and remember to cut yourself a little slack!

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