Unconditionally is how we wish to be loved
To be accepted for who we truly are
Yet we don’t even accept ourselves.
“Yes I do!” you think to yourself
Then why do you conform and try to fit in?
Why do you worry about what others think?
Or get embarrassed when we stand out too much?
We speak to ourselves so harshly that we wouldn’t even be friends with ourselves.
And then we wonder, why we aren’t loved unconditionally.
Do you love others unconditionally?
“Of course I do!” you say.
Yet we are always talking about how others should change.
Not just friends, acquaintances, strangers – but those closest to us.
Brothers, sisters, parents, spouses, children…….
We blame them for our issues. They make us mad and sad and glad.
But do they?
No – we decide if we are mad or sad or glad. It’s all in our reaction.
It’s all in the story we tell ourselves (and others) about the circumstance.
“But it’s true!” you implore.
Yes – it’s true to you. But every story can be told so many different ways.
Ways that make us the victim or avoid blame.
Or ways that empower us and let us accept responsibility.
And hardest of all – in ways that show compassion to those who have “wronged us.”
Unconditional means TOTAL acceptance.
Unconditional means NO judgment.
Unconditional allows for growth and improvement of circumstances
But it does not allow for criticism of how things are.
We all deserve to be loved unconditionally, yet we think others are unworthy.
When we realize that ALL are worthy
When we realize that WE are worthy
Maybe, just maybe we will receive it.
We don’t need it from others though. We need it from no one but ourselves.
To love oneself unconditionally is the ultimate goal.
And when it is recognized, you will realize it was with you all the time.
And you will be loved, unconditionally.